Online dating text messages
But unlike the phone call, which has been around for decades, texting and messaging are new enough that no one can agree on what the hard and fast rules are, which means a typo might doom a future relationship.A winky face may be creepy to one person and friendly to another.I’d heard similar complaints from friends: potential dates who texted too much, too little; used too many emojis, didn’t seem to understand emojis at all; were too serious, used to many “lols” when they clearly were not .Each text was carefully analyzed for hidden meaning.MORE: Why Bumble Wants to Beat Tinder at Its Own Game And yet the importance of texting grows with each passing Valentine’s Day.Long texts can demonstrate care or reek of desperation.That’s why 58% of singles think texting makes dating more ambiguous, according to a recent study from online dating sites Christian Mingle and JDate.
“Oh my God, he’s so desperate,” my friend said when she saw my screen. My friend, who lived strictly by the rule that you should not double text for fear of looking too “thirsty,” as the kids call it, was aghast. My now-boyfriend has been teased for “texting like a girl,” but it was immediately one of my favorite things about him.
I am an effusive texter, and in past relationships I would get frustrated when my multi-text theses would be answered with “yeah” or “sure.” I needed someone who was just as willing to give themselves carpal tunnel as I was.
It’s no wonder, then, that text message miscommunications were a daily source of stress and anxiety.
It was yet another box to check as we sought a significant other: textual chemistry.
These discussions aren’t all that different from those of generations past: pick up lines have always been picked apart and the art of the voicemail analyzed by singles long before the advent of texting.
And many of the old, gendered traditions of who reaches out to whom and when have (for better or worse) persisted.