Sample first message on dating site
This will help spark an idea about where to take the message.
Bonus: you’ll find out if you truly want to message this person or if they’re just drawing you in with their physical appearance.
Here’s the deal with the messaging thing, a lot of people have their own theories on how it works, what works best, etc. Others try pick-up-artist “negging.” Some send ridiculously long messages about their background and their overall philosophy and what they’re currently doing with their lives.
Some guys think that it’s cool to copy and paste and throw out a message like bait in a lake full of carp. I’d like to say there’s no right or wrong way to message someone (everyone usually has something that works for them), but there is definitely a better way.
I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.
There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.
When it comes to sending messages many people freak out.
It seems crazy, I know, but take the one or two minutes it takes to actually read the profile.
This past week alone I’ve gotten enough poorly executed messages to make me want to curl up in a ball of being-alone-forever.
I try not to lose hope that there can be some genuine connections made through meeting someone off of the internet. I have even made several lasting friends from some of my experiences.
Three sentences are all you need to write in a first message.
Thus making an introduction easier and far less intimidating.If rejection happens it’s not as personal or awkward (usually).